Some people seem to be born with some sort of boldness to chase their dreams and be who they really are. Somehow, the Earth (or maybe just their parents) granted them with this wisdom that what they want is worth chasing and exactly who they are is worth being. It seems so easy for these people, whether it is or not.
If you’re anything like me, I’ve always felt like I needed permission.
Most times, it’s hard for me to be bold. I have a tendency to want to make peace instead of start fires. I don’t want to step on anyone’s toes or inconvenience anyone. I want everything to be beautiful and harmonious and full of rainbows and sunshine. But that’s not how growth happens. That’s not how change happens. It’s not even how we love best.
Sometimes loving and doing what you love takes courage. And often it takes a reminder from someone else that you’re worth it. I’ve had authors, friends, guest speakers, and acquaintances give me these life-altering reassurances.
“Who you are is enough.” “It’s time for you to be seen. It’s okay for you to be seen.” “It’s okay to question everything.” “It’s okay to love yourself.” “You have something the world needs to see.” “Find what you love, and do a lot of that.” “The only thing you have to be is yourself.” “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
This summer I had the privilege of spending a weekend in the company of Laurence Cole as well as many other vibrant souls at a gathering called Village Fire. Laurence is a songwriter and elder, writing songs that can be spread through oral tradition that encourage everyone – singers or not – to lift their voices in song. Though he said many wise things, one that stuck out to me was a term I had not yet heard before.
Someone who spreads the good news that people are allowed to be their true selves and follow their passions.
Having people like this around can be essential to our growth. Imagine what the world could be if we fully lived into our capabilities and loved with all we had. Till then, I’ll keep looking for the permissionaries and striving to be one myself.